Wednesday, February 26, 2014
This quote irks me. I don't watch "How I Met Your Mother", so I don't know the context of the quote, but I've seen it around the internet plenty of times. It always rubbed me the wrong way, but I wasn't able to put my finger on why until recently.
To tell someone to "stop being sad, start being awesome" is a complete disregard for their feelings. Whether the reason for their feelings is legitimate or not (that's a separate problem), the feelings they have at the moment are legitimate. Who wouldn't love to command themselves to stop feeling sad? Who among us hasn't tried something like this already? If my emotions could be changed by someone simply saying "you shouldn't feel that way, feel a different way instead"... they would never need to say it. I would have already done it.
It's important to allow ourselves to feel sad. Not wallow in it, not to gain pity, but as a time of reflection, or during a time of mourning, loss or struggle? Allowing ourselves to feel sad and grow during those times is, I think, pretty awesome.